Rebecca Florence Osaigbovo
Rebecca is an author and speaker with Chosen Vessels Ministries (www.cvmi.org), focusing on challenging and inspiring women to be agents of change in their families, workplaces and communities. She also speaks at churches and conferences on emotional healing, spiritual growth, prayer and intercession. Take a few minutes to listen in as she discusses why it’s not about you, but about God.
An Interview with Rebecca Osaigbovo,
author of It’s Not About You—It’s About God
GGBC: Why did you decide to write It's Not About You—It's About God?
Rebecca Osaigbovo: What I wrote in It’s Not About You—It’s About God came as a result of studying to minister to women in conferences and retreats. The different messages that eventually became part of It’s Not About You—It’s About God began about six years ago after the publication of Movin’ On Up, my second book.
Most of the individual messages that ended up in the book did not seem to relate to each other at the time they were prepared. It was only later that I could see a pattern of what God was saying to me and to others like myself who desperately want to follow after the Lord, but don’t know what may be hindering them. I believe this book has been written as a means to help women, particularly African American women, to come closer to God with our whole hearts. Many of us appear to be close by our religious activity, but are far from Him in reality. We cannot be the partners God desires of us if we remain in this state. Unfortunately, most of us are not aware of where we really are with God. This book challenges women to accept truth that will bring freedom.
GGBC: How have you personally learned the significance of the statement, “It’s not about you—it’s about God”?
Rebecca: As I start out the book referring to what happened to me in my teens, I believe that has been the bedrock of how I have learned the significance of this statement. After I gave myself unconditionally to God for His purpose, I almost died. It was so hard for me to understand why that was allowed to take place in my life. But God graciously spared my life.
However, over the years I have had to constantly remind myself that there is a greater and higher purpose for which my life counts, other than what can be seen with the visible eye. When things do not go according to my plan, that’s when I’m reminded that it is not for my plans that I am alive. I, like most others, have become distracted in the pursuit of God by many other side pursuits, however good some may be. But the pursuit of ministry, family, friends, goals, purpose, or any other thing, can never take the place of pursuing God. Reminding myself that it isn’t about me has helped me stay on course and even get back on course when I unknowingly have wondered off.
GGBC: Why is this statement so hard to put into practice?
Rebecca: To seek God first with everything we are is difficult because God is invisible. As humans, we tend to be motivated by tangibles. That’s why when we mix God with prosperity or success in life, it will draw a larger crowd. To seek God for the simple motivation to know Him better and to be known of Him is so nebulous. It smacks of pie in the sky. We want what we deserve down here now! “Don’t talk to me about eternity.” What I know about is the 70-something years I’m living in the physical. That’s most of our focus. It’s more difficult for African Americans because in our history, we’ve been fed the “pie in the sky” to keep us passive about the wrong done to us in slavery or silent concerning the injustices that spawned the Civil Rights movement here in America. It’s harder for African American women because we have been denied so much of the physical tangibles in the past that to be asked to seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness is akin to asking us to stop desiring the things that we are finally beginning to enjoy.
I don’t believe God is asking us to stop desiring or to refuse those things. He’s willing to give all those things to us, but He is asking us stop seeking those things and seek Him first and believe Him to get all else to us, in His time and in His way. And He is asking us as His friend, to be willing to give up the promise of those things if that would serve His purpose.
GGBC: What are some ways that we can become less self-centered and more God-centered?
Rebecca: We basically need to grow up spiritually. The more we mature, the more we know that it is not about us. We become more God-centered when we come to the truth of realizing that we are not the center of our own universe, and definitely not the center of God’s universe. That’s just the truth of the matter. The sooner we come to that knowledge, the better.
In order to come to that realization, we need to replace trying to figure life and God out by asking God to give us His wisdom. We need to be content to wait for God’s answer, even if it does not come when we want it to come. We also need to ask God to increase our knowledge of Him and to increase our faith Him. Use the circumstances of life, especially those we don’t understand as a means of knowing God. As I stated in the book, we need to ask different questions. Instead of “What about me?”, let’s try, “What is God trying to do?”, How can I make God look good here?” or “What is going on behind the scene?”
GGBC: What is your hope for It’s Not About You—It’s About God?
Rebecca: My hope is that this book will be pivotal in a revival among African American Christian women. My prayer is that God will use this book to bring us, African American Christian women, close to Himself. I hope many will ask God questions, and as a result come to a greater knowledge of God and their purpose in his plan. I hope this book will generate discussions and study of seeking God. God used this book, as He has done other writings and messages He has brought through me, as a means to speak to me and clear up some obstacles that had come between us. Writing the book helped me put my life in the proper perspective and brought me closer to God.