author of If Men Are Like Buses, Then How Do I Catch
GGBC: Michelle, you've stated that you wrote this book because "it's
the one book you wanted to read yourself but couldn't find in
the Christian bookstore." What did you mean by that?
I WANTED A BOOK WITH BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES THAT WERE REALISTIC
AND APPLICABLE TO MY LIFE AS A MODERN DAY WOMAN. THE FEW BOOKS
I HAD MANAGED TO FIND WERE SO SPIRITUAL THEY FAILED TO DEAL
WITH THE ISSUES THAT ASSAULTED ME ON A DAILY BASIS AS A SINGLE
WOMAN. I JUST FELT IT WAS TIME TO GET REAL!
GGBC: You offer clear, practical observations about male/female relationships,
like, "Women fall in love and get married. Men decide to
get married and then look for a wife." It seems so obvious,
yet we can make it so complicated, can't we? Do you think women
are trying too hard?
DEFINITELY ARE TRYING TOO HARD. IT'S NOT ALL THEIR FAULT, HOWEVER.
WE LIVE IN A MAKE IT HAPPEN WORLD, IT'S HARD TO LET GO AND LET
GOD WHEN EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS SCREAMING THE OPPOSITE. THIS
CALLS FOR AN EXTRA MEASURE OF FAITH ON OUR PART AS WOMEN. WE
NEED TO ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER TO WAIT ON THE LORD.
four previous books have sold over 60,000 volumes (obviously
they're what singles are looking for). With your straightforward,
conversational, and humorous style which also incorporates a
lot of Scripture how is your message being received by women
GET TONS OF MAIL ATTESTING TO CHANGED LIVES AS WELL AS CHANGED
MINDS. THAT IS ALL I CAN HOPE FOR. MY HEARTS' CRY IS TO MAKE
THE WORD OF GOD PRACTICAL FOR EVERYDAY LIVING. GOD HAS AN ANSWER
FOR EVERYTHING. WE SIMPLY PERISH BECAUSE WE DON'T DO THE INVESTIGATIVE
WORK MOST OF THE TIME TO GLEAN HIS RICH ADVICE.
GGBC: As far as a woman knowing God's will for her in a life's mate,
you state that, "If you have to ask, the answer is already
clear." What do you mean by this?
ALWAYS GIVES A RESOUNDING CONFIRMATION WITH HIS WORD AND DIRECTIONS
TO US. WE HAVE THE PEACE THAT PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING AS WE
MAKE DECISIONS SUPERVISED BY HIM. BUT, WHEN WE ARE CHOOSING
TO DO OUR OWN THING, QUESTIONS ABOUND AND THERE IS NO PEACE.
IF YOU NEED TO GET THE REASSURANCE OF OTHERS ABOUT THE PERSON
IN YOUR LIFE, IT'S PROBABLY NOT THE PERSON FOR YOU.
book talks about some painful, negative experiences you've had
with men and the "dating game" yourself. What has
happened for you, personally, since you quit "chasing buses," so to speak, to meet a man?
LIFE IS A LOT MORE JOYFUL, I'LL TELL YOU THAT. I FIND THAT I
ALSO ATTRACT A DIFFERENT KIND OF MAN. MORE THE TYPE I WAS LOOKING
FOR IN THE FIRST PLACE.
Seeking love can be all-consuming for us at times. If we give
up searching for the love we need from men, how are we going
to get it? How will we spend our time?
DOES NOT CONSIST OF JUST HAVING A MAN. WE NEED TO BE IN FULL
TILT PURSUIT OF OUR PURPOSE. THE REASON WE WERE CREATED IN THE
FIRST PLACE. USING THE GIFTS WE HAVE NATURALLY TO BLESS OTHERS
AROUND US. AS WE APPLY OURSELVES TO BEING A BLESSING TO EVERYONE
THAT GOD PUTS IN OUR PATH OUR LIVES ARE FILLED WITH MEANING
AND FULFILLMENT. THAT'S WHEN MR. RIGHT COMES ALONG AND FINDS
A CONTENT, ATTRACTIVE WOMAN LIVING HER LIFE ON PURPOSE. TO HIM
THAT IS IRRESISTIBLE.
Michelle, your career has taken you many places in radio, writing
and producing, conference speaking, and as a vocal performer.
Can you talk about the career area of a woman's life and how
God works in this?
WANTS TO TAKE WHATEVER WE HAVE AND USE IT TO BUILD UP OTHERS
AND PROVOKE THEM TO BE FRUITFUL. NO MATTER WHAT YOUR GIFT, IF
YOU SEEK THE LORD HE WILL SHOW YOU HOW TO USE YOUR NATURAL ABILITIES
TO EMPOWER OTHERS TO BE ALL THAT HE CREATED THEM TO BE. SOME
OF US ARE JUST NATURAL ENCOURAGERS. START ENCOURAGING. SOME
OF US HAVE MORE PRACTICAL SKILLS THAT NEED TO BE TAUGHT TO OTHERS
IN THE BODY. SUCH AS MONEYMANAGEMENT, OR OTHER TYPES OF SKILLS.
IT'S TIME TO GET BUSY.
Men Are Like Buses contains a "treasure chest" of
straight talk and advice for the woman whowants to meet a great
man, but also wants to please God first and end up with the right life partner.
What one thing would you like readers to take away from it and
THAT NO MAN WILL EVER MAKE YOU HAPPY IF GOD ISN'T THE FIRST
LOVER OF YOUR SOUL. AND A PARTNER WILL NOT COMPLETE YOU IF YOU
ARE NOT OPERATING IN YOUR PURPOSE.
GGBC: What is this destination you call, "Love City?" (Song
of Solomon 2:4: He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his
banner over me is love.) Do you think your bus is headed there?
YOU ARE HAVING A LOVE AFFAIR WITH YOUR COMING BRIDEGROOM (JESUS)
YOU ARE DEFINITELY ON THE WAY TO "LOVE CITY!" THIS
IS A PLACE WHERE ALL IS WELL WITH YOUR SOUL. YOU ARE IN LOVE
AND YOU FEEL LOVED. YOU HAVE COME TO THE UNDERSTANDING THAT
YOU ARE A WELL-KEPT WOMAN AND THERE IS SENSE OF FULFILLMENT
THAT NO OTHER PERSON OR CIRCUMSTANCE IN YOUR LIFE CAN DISLODGE.
there are women who are finding it difficult to wait on God's
timing in regards to finding or being found by a life partner.
How can women begin to see the purpose in singleness and move
forward in the things of God and trust in His best for every
area of their lives?
WHEN WE SPEND ALL OF OUR TIME FOCUSING ON WHAT WE WANT BUT DO
NOT HAVE, WE CAN GET STUCK IN A PAINFUL GROOVE. MOST OF THE
TIME THIS IS A HARD STRUGGLE BECAUSE SO MUCH OF A WOMAN'S SELF
ESTEEM IS CONNECTED TO HER DRAWING VALIDATION FROM MEN. BUT,
THIS IS INCORRECT. IT IS WHO WE ARE IN CHRIST THAT MAKES THE
DIFFERENCE. THEREFORE FOCUS ON YOUR FIRST LOVE AND ALLOW HIM
TO FILL YOUR LIFE WITH MEANING. BEGIN TO SEE YOUR WORTH THROUGH
HIS EYES. THIS BEING DONE, YOU WILL FIND THAT YOU WILL NOT SETTLE
FOR LESS THAN THE BEST WHEN MAKING CHOICES THAT AFFECT YOU PERSONALLY.
Michelle, do you believe Christian woman should pray for God
to send them a husband?
PRAYER FOR ME IS CONVERSATION WITH GOD. I TELL HIM EVERYTHING.
THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY. IT IS IMPORTANT TO KEEP AN OPEN
DIALOGUE WITH HIM SO THAT YOU ARE OPEN TO HEAR HIS DIRECTION.
SHOULD YOU ASK GOD FOR A HUSBAND EVERYDAY? I DON'T THINK YOU
NEED TO. HE ALREADY KNOWS THE DESIRE OF YOUR HEART. SHOULD YOU
BE TALKING WITH HIM ALONG THE WAY ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL AS YOU
WAIT ON ANY GIVENDAY? ABSOLUTELY. AFTER ALL, HE IS OUR GREATEST
SOURCE OF COMFORT.
Do you think the man chooses the woman or the woman chooses
the man in regards to a romantic relationship?
THE MAN CHOOSES. WHEN THE WOMAN CHOOSES SHE IS NEVER SECURE,
BECAUSE SHE IS OUT OF SPIRITUAL ORDER
FROM THE BEGINNING. JESUS CHOSE HIS BRIDE. AND HE IS THE EXAMPLE
FOR ALL MEN.
your opinion, should Christians kiss dating goodbye? Is it in
God's will for us to date a myriad of people while we are being
prepared for our mates? How can women guard their hearts and
date without getting emotionally involved too soon?
THINK IT IS IMPORTANT FOR WOMEN TO HAVE RICH FRIENDSHIPS WITH
MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. NOT EVERYONE YOU MEET WILL BE THE
PERFECT MATE FOR YOU BUT THEY CAN BE AN INVALUABLE SOURCE OF
FUN, COMFORT AND LEARNING. AS I SAY IN MY BOOK. DATING IS NOT
FOR MATING, IT IS A TIME OF SHARING EXPERIENCES, BUILDING A
FRIENDSHIP AND COLLECTING DATA. HOW CAN YOU MAKE A DECISION
THAT YOU WANT TO BE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN
KNOW THEM. YOU NEED A LOT OF INFORMATION BEFORE YOU CAN EVEN
KNOW IF THEY ARE MATE MATERIAL AND QUALIFY FOR YOUR CONSIDERATION.
GGBC: What's next in your "trippin' and travelin'" schedule,
Michelle? For readers who devour the "straight talk to
girlfriends" in this book, will there be another one down
MMH: I AM PRESENTLY WORKING ON A BOOK FOR NEXT YEAR ENTITLED, "SASSY,
SINGLE, AND SATISFIED" HOW TO GET TO HAPPY. ALSO YOU CAN
LOG ON TO MY WEB SITE AT HEARTWING.ORG FOR UPDATES ON MY SPEAKING
SCHEDULE AS WELL AS MY ANNUAL "GET A LOVE LIFE" VALENTINES
so much Ms. McKinney-Hammond for your time!