by Shellie R. Warren
I'm sure some of you must be thinking that exercise
is not what you would consider pampering. Well, I do because
when I set aside time to make myself look better physically,
I feel better all the way around, but for those of you who
are not "feeling me", I have another example:
I know I am "the pot calling the kettle black"
here in this next point, but it is still just as valid.
Now that I pursue writing full-time, I have a network of
friends who are in the same profession and seemingly regardless
of what time of the night I am up on my PC, someone is up
with me. A girlfriend of mine was online at 11:00pm her
time and she was sharing with me how worn out she was and
how her exhaustion was affecting her entire life from her
work, to her marriage, to her children, to her overall self-esteem.
I felt like my mother when I said it, but my immediate
response was "Okay, so why are you on this thing? Why
don't you take a bubble bath?"
She agreed with me, but then went on to explain why she
couldn't at the time---she talked about this for an additional
30 minutes. Almost as if she felt that it was a guilty pleasure.
From how she was sounding, I believe it was a very necessary
I recently read an article which said that stress is America's
#1 health problem. Then I came across a list which shared
ways to combat it:
1) Change your scenery.
2) Start exercising.
3) Write it down (begin journaling).
4)Keep a good sense of humor.
5) Stop everything.
6) Take a walk.
7) Say no to what you don't have time to do.
8) Take care of taxing tasks in the morning to get them
out of the way.
9) Devote three hours each week to you and you alone, and
don't let anyone steal that time away.
10) Live for today. Don't dwell in the past for worry about
the future. Live in the moment.
I would definitely say that a bubble bath addresses at
least 5 out of the 10 options on this list. What the Enemy
doesn't want us to know is that stress and envy are KILLING
US. And it doesn't have to be that way.
Proverbs 14:30 tells us that "A calm and undisturbed
mind and heart are the life and health of the body, but
envy, jealousy, and wrath are like rottenness of the bones."
The dictionary tells us that many of us are envious of
others because we are discontent with who we are. The quote
for today suggests that we want what is in another's yard
because they appear to be doing a better job with there's
than we are with our own. The Bible reminds us of the ritual
many women of royalty partook in which centered around pampering
and preparation and even Proverbs 27:9 admits that a little
oil and perfume (modern day terms---a little "Bath
and Body Works") makes one happy.
What other signs do you need?!?
If you want longer nails or longer hair, set appointments
for a manicure and/or pedicure; give yourself hot oil treatments
and massage your head every once in a while!
If you want a better body or clearer skin---exercise, steam
your skin, eat your favorite fruits (no matter how exotic),
set aside more time for sleeping and reading, rent your
favorite movie and watch it---the reduction of stress does
wonders for both...trust me!
If you want a certain article of clothing (get this), save
your money until you can afford to get it and then take
care of it when you do!
If you feel that you are always on the go---STOP. Believe
me, the problems will wait until you get back. Go out on
a date with your spouse or on the town with your "boys"
or your "girls".
But with whatever you decide, stop "hating" on
the people who caught on way before you did. Remember God
is no respector of persons, so He does not think that one
deserves more nurturing or pampering than the other. However,
He like with everything else, He leaves the choice up to
In the meantime, don't be mad at people who have been making
the right one all along. Just commit to a mind change---one
that is open to caring for the spiritual, emotional and
physical side of you! You'll be all the better for it.
And in the grand scheme of things, isn't that what serving
God is all about? Being better for it?