A Good Man's Not Hard To Find (continued)
by Shellie R. Warren

As I read through the quotes on men, I doubt any man is being "helped" by them:

"Women have many faults, but men only have two: everything they say and everything they do." -Unknown

"Of course God made men before women, you always make a rough draft before the final masterpiece." -Unknown

"The average woman would rather have beauty than intelligence because the average man can see better than he can think." -Unknown

"Few women admit their age. Few men act theirs." -Unknown

"Women who seek to be equal to men lack ambition." -Anonymous

"The only difference between men and boys is the cost of their toys." ~Author Unknown

"Men are like tile floors, lay them right the first time and you can walk all over them for life." -Unknown

"God must love stupid people.....that's why he created sooo many men!" -Unknown

"Men are like a fine wine. They start out like grapes, and it's our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you'd like to have dinner with." ~Author Unknown
"The more I see of men, the more I like dogs." ~Madame de Stal

"Men are like a deck of cards. You'll find the occasional king, but most are jacks." -Laura Swanson

"Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the other ones are handicapped." -Unknown

"If I were a girl I'd despair. The supply of good women far exceeds that of men who deserve them." -Robert Groves

"Whatever women do they must do it twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult." -Charlotte Whitton

And these didn't even make a dent in the long list of sites which advertised such negativity. Sorry ladies but I would venture to say that many men are not acting as they are supposed to because there are many women who are not acting as there are supposed to as well. Just look at the definition of the word 'help':

To give assistance to; aid; to contribute to the furtherance of; promote; to ease; relieve; to change for the better; improve.

Which brings me to the Scriptures for today. If you are a woman and you have resolved that "men are no good", "men cannot be trusted" and (God forbid) "men are dogs", based on these verses, guess who has created this reality---who has attracted such beings into her space---guess who too is out of line?

I believe that God stresses the power of words because He created so many things just from speaking. We are made in His Image and so we too, have the same power. If you want to create a better environment with your husband, your boyfriend, your father, your brother, your co-worker, your pastor, your friends---even your ex-husband or people whom
you deal with on a "less than intimate basis" (and granted there are extenuating circumstances in some cases), put more faith in what you say and less in what they do. Many of our relationships are on its deathbed, because we put them there with our mouths.

A male friend of mine once shared with me an insight that I hold dear; men and women have the same emotions; however, women often react, while men choose not to. If this is indeed true (and I trust it to be so), then I am surprised that many more men are not much worse off. I know how much words have hurt me and how much of a battle I have had to endure to mend those wounds. I know how various insults, casual jokes and harsh criticism has affected how I see myself and how I treat others---how such cruelty almost killed my spirit. Why should I be surprised that it would not do the same thing for someone else? Which is what the Word says will happen when you speak negativity---it can indeed cause death.

I want more for men than that.

I want men to be strong leaders and role models, responsible husbands and fathers, good friends and companions---and so, I am going to make a conscious effort to speak things into their lives that will assist them, promote them, relieve them...change them for the better.

I am going to do just what God wants me to do...I'm going to HELP THEM.

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